baby cry - the vicious circle

Why wear babies

I must say I was more involved in my own shit in the past couple of weeks and did not pay enough attention to Timur. Alka was a good eye-opener and drew my attention to the importance of these issues. So, what do you get, if you neglect your child? Yes, that's right, a crying baby. It is soooo god damn simple. And what do parents do when babies cry? Yes, they try to calm them down by picking them up, and later by giving candy, toys and the size of calming tools will just increase by age. Just give them something quickly, so that they shut up and will not complain. This is the road to hell. This is how relationships can become materialistic and the important issues remain untouched. This is the best way to create frustrated kids and unhappy parents, who are unable to fulfill their kids' needs.

So, this morning I decided to wear Timur, which paid off immediately. I put him in his BabyBjörn thing and walked around in the house, did cooking etc. I don't think he was that comfortable, but I guess the physical closeness was all he needed. He was quiet and even when I put him down later he didn't cry the way he did in the past couple of days. All babies want is closeness, but we parents want to get rid of them sometimes wanting to have time for ourselves and by doing so making irreversible mistakes.

Today's resolution is to try to wear Timur more often in his sling and by doing so I also hope to gain more quality time for myself.

An eye-opening article by Krisztina Babó the sling specialist: http://www.lll.hu/node/94
More about how to put the sling on: http://www.lll.hu/node/95
Nandu's sling tying tricks: http://www.nandu.hu/English/Practical/practical.htm
More on baby wearing & slings: http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/articles/babywearing.htm
Babywearing a la dr. Sears: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/t051100.asp